Why I Became a Doula

Honestly, I never dreamed of becoming a doula. I have a passion for people and always knew I wanted children, but I didn't see those things coming together as a career choice that could make a difference.

It all changed when I became a first-time dad. I remember my pride and excitement while seeing our first son, Mason. It was exactly how I always heard having a child was like— pure joy. Baby bliss.

Then, reality set in—sleepless nights. A screaming infant needed nearly constant care. Fights with my wife. Going to work exhausted. I told myself it would get better. It was just a phase. But over time, I noticed things getting worse instead of getting better. I was experiencing postpartum depression, and I had no idea.

Men can and do experience postpartum depression (more specifically, 1 in 10, although some reports say up to 1 in 4). As it turns out, my feelings were real and valid. When I thought back on my experience and wondered how many other dads feel the need to be heard and supported? Where was the dad guide that explained all of this?

So, I became a certified birth and postpartum doula and a new parent educator so I could provide the dad support that wasn't offered when I needed it.
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Fast forward two years to our delivery room for the birth of our second child. We were ready. Our birth plan was in hand, I had spoken to the doctor and informed her of my role as a dad and a doula, and we had our lights, affirmations, and essential oils. Even though my wife had to be induced, she could still birth the baby naturally using the techniques I had learned from doula training and our birthing classes.

Most importantly, though, I felt that as a husband, I could protect my wife at that moment and advocate for our family. This is the experience I want for other dads/partners.

My goal as a labor doula is to help others have a voice in the birthing space, protect their partner and identify feelings that may be previously stereotyped or unfamiliar.