My goal is to empower dads to be seen, heard and confident throughout the birthing experience. I'll guide them to be better prepared for the birth of their child or children. Of course, I am also my amazing wife's biggest fan and a daddy to our two wonderful kids.
Honestly, I never dreamed of becoming a doula. I have a passion for people and always knew I wanted children, but I didn't see those things coming together as a career choice that could make a difference.
It all changed when I became a first-time dad. I remember my pride and excitement while seeing our first son, Mason. It was exactly how I always heard having a child was like— pure joy. Baby bliss.
Then, reality set in—sleepless nights. A screaming infant needed nearly constant care. Fights with my wife. Going to work exhausted. I told myself it would get better. It was just a phase. But over time, I noticed things getting worse instead of getting better. I was experiencing postpartum depression, and I had no idea.
Men can and do experience postpartum depression (more specifically, 1 in 10, although some reports say up to 1 in 4). As it turns out, my feelings were real and valid. When I thought back on my experience and wondered how many other dads feel the need to be heard and supported? Where was the dad guide that explained all of this?
So, I became a certified birth and postpartum doula and a new parent educator so I could provide the dad support that wasn't offered when I needed it.
Fast forward two years to our delivery room for the birth of our second child. We were ready. Our birth plan was in hand, I had spoken to the doctor and informed her of my role as a dad and a doula, and we had our lights, affirmations, and essential oils. Even though my wife had to be induced, she could still birth the baby naturally using the techniques I had learned from doula training and our birthing classes.
Most importantly, though, I felt that as a husband, I could protect my wife at that moment and advocate for our family. This is the experience I want for other dads/partners.
My goal as a labor doula is to help others have a voice in the birthing space, protect their partner and identify feelings that may be previously stereotyped or unfamiliar.
Speaking of what isn't familiar, did I mention I am a male doula? As a man providing doula care in the postpartum profession, I have thankfully experienced more support than criticism, but some still feel men should not be allowed into this sacred space. While I respect that sentiment, I believe it is vital for those who participated in creating this new life to be given the tools and guidance to support and love both mother and child more meaningfully.
I look forward to helping men (and women) do just that. I am committed to helping all partners become the best version of themselves as they navigate the birthing and postpartum journey.
"Dude-la": n. A doula who is a male, aka “a dude.”
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